Why You Struggle to Ask for Help
Posted by JILL SIMONS
If asking for help is like -97 on your list of things you like to do, we're going to chat this month.
The reason? Our resistance to asking for help is ALWAYS based on a lie somewhere - a lie about the need to be self-reliant, a lie about becoming a burden, a lie about what gives us worth, a lie about the nature of God.
Whatever it is for you, it's not helping you. It's time for it to go.
I'll tell you what my lie was - You get what you deserve. It was the most innocent sounding little thought that "the man in the heated basement" (as my podcast guest later this month so wisely noted) was using to hold me back from the massive amounts of MORE God was inviting me into if I only stepped out in faith to ASK for more.
Not like a massive red flag, alarm bell sounding lie, is it?
You might have the same thought. I did for most of my life thus far, and it was even a thought I would have consciously and not give it a second glance.
I'm a female American entrepreneur. I had staked my life on that lie. If I hustled like all get out, I would get the success I deserved. I would get what I deserved.
And I wondered why I kept crashing and burning - not always publicly, but always painfully.
Low and behold it was because my entire mindset was based on something contrary to what God says. No wonder that didn't work out great.
And so I invited Jesus to speak into that place - replacing that lie with His truth instead and breaking that stronghold in my mind and my heart. And you know what He told me?
Asking is the path to humility.
Admitting our needs, our flaws, our failures, our shortcomings, is what invites God to come in. If we are trying to prove we can do it all ourselves, God lets us try. He doesn't come in a wrestle away control. But He will take the wheel when we give it to Him, exerting our free will to ask for what we need.
It doesn't always (who am I kidding!? it NEVER) comes the way you expect it, but God will provide. Even if we can't see it in the moment.
But asking unlocks the door for Jesus. Asking shows we know we need Him. Asking teaches us our real place in God's family - as dependent children, not autonomous adults who just come home with a list of promotions and accolades to Thanksgiving dinner.
This month we're diving deep into what it means to ask for what you need and remember that you can trust God to be there.
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