Making Space for Creativity

Making Space for Creativity

It has been such a joy to spend this month talking about creativity with you. After several years of struggling with what exactly I’m supposed to say in communicating with all of the wonderful people that follow my work this month has been a breath of fresh air for me as well. The clarity that the Holy Spirit has given me through this process has been a tremendous gift and all of you that I’ve reached out to me with words of thanks and encouragement for the good that this month has brought to fruit in your life has been the icing on the cake.

As a final reflection on creativity I want to talk a little bit today about how we make space for creativity. 

Our world is loud. 

There’s so much going on, and we have so much information thrown at us every day that it can be hard to get in touch with the voice inside ourselves which is essential for creativity. Here are a few ways that I have made space in my only for creativity and hopefully they will get you thinking about what you can do to not only give yourself space to be more creative, but cultivate a greater sense of peace throughout your daily life.

  1. Limit social media. I’ve noticed a huge shift in my anxiety level as I have severely ratcheted down my social media use, but that said I have done this by using tools that support me in healthy social media use and not total eradication of social media. I use the Facebook Newsfeed Eradicator extension for Google Chrome that gets rid of my Facebook newsfeed so that I am not trapped in endless scrolling. I also use the time limits available on my iPhone to let me know when I have spent 30 minutes on Instagram and then I log off for the day. I’m not personally on Twitter, but if you are, I would personally recommend you stop. I know some people like it, but that of all social media channels is a cesspool of negativity and anger. Your creativity doesn’t need that. (Feel free to disagree, but find a healthy way to limit it if you choose to stay active there.)
  1. Limit sound. I try and make as much of my day silent as possible these days. Now, ambient noise from the people that I share my life with is not included in this – I’m talking about manufactured, additional noise – TV, music, podcasts, etc. We enjoy music as a family some throughout the day but by and large I try and keep things quiet. My children’s imagination flourish and I have space to become aware of my own thoughts.

  2. Clean up. It’s hard to be creative in a messy, chaotic space. And this is coming from the girl who is chronically a mess. I know it’s an old stereotype that creative people are messy, chaotic, and flighty, but these things don’t truly nurture creativity. We practice a version of minimalism that is a work in progress, but helps simplify tidying so that I don’t spend my creative time cleaning the whole house (most of the time).
  1. Gentleness. Be gentle with yourself, just as much as you would be gentle with your own child. Our creativity is a version of ourselves as a child and it doesn’t respond to admonishments and competition. It responds to love, space, and room to play.

Those are just a few of the ways that I have created space for creativity in my life over the last few months and they’ve made a great deal of difference. When we limit what we consume, in all manners, we are able to better direct what we produce.

But now is the month draws to a close it’s time to make some decisions. Was this month of exploring creativity just a one off for you? An opportunity to try some new things but ultimately not make any big life changes? It’s OK if it was. Change isn’t right for everybody at the same time and you’ll always have these materials and emails to return to shed the time be right in the future.

But if these resources and words have touched something in you that you want to continue to nurture it’s time to commit. After today I won’t be showing up in your inbox talking about creativity anymore. (We have an awesome new topic planned for next month that I’m equally excited about, but it’s bittersweet to let creativity find its way into the archives.)

If you’re ready to commit to really changing the way you go about your day today life to create more space for creativity and infuse your faith life with creativity there’s two things I’d like you to do. 

First of all, I want you to download and print this commitment card. It’s the size of a business card (and pretty!) so if you print it and cut it out of the sheet of paper it will fit in your wallet, pocketbook, or the corner of your mirror. Put it wherever it will remind you of the commitment you have made – to live with greater creativity in all areas of your life. 

The second thing I’d like you to do is consider selecting a physical item to support your commitment to creativity – an item from the Creativity Collection or one of our brand new creativity bundles – that can serve as an every day reminder of the revival that you were seeking in your life. That’s the whole reason we make these products. This is what they’re for – to reinforce the work the Holy Spirit is doing in our lives and draw our mind constantly back to the commitments we have made.

With Joy!


If you have friends that you think would benefit from the Revive Creativity resource package and the other content we are putting out this month, I encourage you to point them to this link: https://pinksaltriot.com/creativity/. There they can sign up and receive the packet right away in their inbox and follow along with the email for the rest of this month and beyond. 

Healing Creative Wounds

Healing Creative Wounds

I think it’s unfortunate how often we throw around phrases like “Sarah is so creative.” Or “Maddie doesn’t have an athletic bone in their body.”  These kinds of labeling situations, especially amongst the young, can create beliefs that define our perception of what we are capable of. One of my great creativity teachers, Julia Cameron, emphasizes how important it is for us to move through these preconceived ideas we have about our creativity if we’re going to actually be creative. 

If you are one of those people that were affected by negative reinforcement of your creativity throughout your life, I’m sorry. 

That shouldn’t have happened. 

Whether you can’t draw to save your life or can’t sing a note or couldn’t tell a sonnet from a haiku, it was unfair of whoever said it to make the general statement that you were not creative. Even if you believe it is true.

I think it’s so important that our faith creates a place for us to grapple with these damaging beliefs about ourselves and move through them. Connection researcher Brené Brown also talks extensively about the “creative wounds,” her interviewees often speak of which go on to affect them throughout their life.

All this to say that you don’t have to listen to all the voices from your past, even your own, when it comes to your creativity – or anything for that matter. You are not defined by the words that are said about you, but it doesn’t change the fact that they can hurt. I think that a huge part of the healing process is to accept both of those things and hold them both in your heart no matter how hard it might feel.

I was one of those kids that was just always the “creative one.” My life has been defined by music, theater, fashion design, graphic design, photography, all culminating in my career as a creative director. I’ve never met a creative endeavor I didn’t want to try my hand at. 

But subsequently I was also labeled the “not athletic one.” It was the whole cliché 9 yards – the last one picked for teams, lowest grades in gym class, and I think I cried through every one of the six soccer games I attempted.

It was only as an adult that I allowed myself to believe, even just a little bit that maybe being “not athletic“ was not a defining fact about me. Seven months after I had my second child I signed up for my first 5K. Obviously not a feat of massive athletic prowess, but definitely more than I had ever attempted before. I trained all summer, faithfully following my couch to 5K running plan. Even on the morning of the race I didn’t know if I could do it and the memory chokes me up even now – because I did do it. I did what I had always believed was not possible for me even if it was for other people. I proved to myself that “not athletic“ was not a static truth about myself.

So if your version of my story is about being the “not creative” one, take heart. You too can prove to yourself – because you’re the only one that matters in the situation since God already knows the truth – that your non-creativity is not a static truth about yourself. Just as I have a body that is healthy and created by God and therefore able to run despite my lack of natural inclination to do so, you have a complex and beautiful mind that is all your own able to undertake feats of creativity in the image and likeness of God your creator.

So that’s all mushy and well and good and stuff, but what do you actually do if you have always believed that you’re not creative and now want to try and move the needle? You’d be hard-pressed to find a “Couch to Watercolor Florals“ training program, right?

Well, you’d be surprised. If you really would like to test your specifically artistic use of creativity then there is a wealth of beginner materials available. The biggest obstacle people face is the simple fact that it is a struggle for many people to allow themselves to be beginners. You’re early art is going to be bad. Your middle art is probably going to be mostly bad. And yes, even when you reach the later stages of artistic creative expression there is going to be a lot of bad art. And so being OK with that is an integral part of the process. 

To get started, why not jump on Youtube and search for some tutorials? Maybe test out a membership teaching platform like Skillshare that will let you learn lots of different types of things from lots of different professionals? (If you use that link for Skillshare you will get two months of premium membership free to test it out!) Creative friends are also a great resource. See if they will let you join in or observe their creative juices at work to get yours flowing. And last but not least, there’s always the trusty library. Check out a book and learn about a new skill that interests you.

But you definitely don’t have to jump into an artistic creative pursuit if you’re looking to dip your toes into creativity for the first time in a long time, or maybe ever. Throughout this month I’ve shared lots of non-traditionally artistic creative activities you might enjoy – photography, cooking, music appreciation, tinkering, and landscaping. You can pick one of these or another that appeals to you and get your feet wet. A simple book from the library on any of these topics will greatly expand your horizons and give you lots of food for thought.

And also, if you feel that you are harboring a creative wound from childhood, I can’t emphasize enough how important it is that you admit that and also reject the lie that it has superimposed on your life. God wants to heal all our wounds, whether in this life or the next, and that includes our creative wounds. Admitting what you have been through, no matter how small and petty the story my seem, and vocally giving those wounds to God and rejecting the lies attached to them can be a powerful agent of change in your life.

PS. If you have friends that you think would benefit from the Revive Creativity resource package and the other content we are putting out this month, I encourage you to point them to this link: https://pinksaltriot.com/creativity/. There they can sign up and receive the packet right away in their inbox and follow along with the email for the rest of this month and beyond.

The Crossroads of Creativity + Faith

The Crossroads of Creativity + Faith

I have been so overwhelmed at the enthusiastic response to Revive Creativity so far! Thank you to all of you that have emailed me, sent me DMs, and otherwise let me know that this topic and resource are meaningful to you. 

Creativity is so powerful in part because it looks at problems and life and the status quo and says “This is not the only way.” And boy do we need that right now.

Creativity can lift us up out of the concrete situation we find ourselves in and be a conduit of light and possibility – just like our faith is. That’s part of why the combination of faith and creativity is so powerful and makes so much sense. The world needs our faith, and just as much it needs the eyes our faith gives us – the vision we can cultivate in ourselves and transmit to the world through our empowered use of creativity. 

Later today I’m going to share this quote on Instagram that I thought you might enjoy pondering from author and artist Julia Cameron: 

“Those who speak in spiritual terms routinely refer to God as creator but seldom see “creator” as the literal term for “artist”. I am suggesting you take the term “creator” quite literally. You are seeking to forge a creative alliance, artist-to-artist with the Great Creator. Accepting this concept can greatly expand your creative possibilities.”

Julia Cameron is one of my great teachers of creativity. I embarked on her “Artist Way” program of artistic discovery while I was studying art in Florence, Italy at the ripe age of 20. Though I have no idea of her personal religious beliefs or affiliations, she emphasized throughout the program how much a sense of a Creator, whether religious in nature or not, was essential to tapping into your own ability to create. We, of course, know this Creator to be God, and I find it interesting (though honest unsurprising) that even a book on secular artistic growth cannot grapple with creativity without Him.

He is creative energy. He is renewal and revival. He is force actively creating each of us each moment of every day. If we’re looking breakthrough creatively we’ve got the hook up – He’s the one we need to pay attention to. 

So here’s my challenge for you this week: look at your spiritual practices, your prayer life, religious reading, Bible study, attending church, and think of a way to bring something creative and new into at least one of them. 

Here are some ideas to get you started:

  • If you listen to religious podcasts, worship music, or other faith based audio, trying doodling or coloring the mandala style coloring sheet from the package while you listen. 
  • If you like to pray in your own words, why not try writing out your prayers? You could even try your hand at a poem prayer, especially if you haven’t attempted poetry since your vaguely emo high school days. Other options include writing a dialogue between yourself and God, kind of like a play, or writing a hypothetical letter from God to yourself or someone else. 
  • When you go to church, try to dress with some creativity, putting thought into it prior to getting ready. This is not about vanity or being showy, but accepting how God created you and working with His creation, your body, to creative effect. 
  • Another beautiful way to pray is to watercolor or paint while you pray. The outcome can be abstract and doesn’t have to be Instagram worthy, but use the brush strokes as you pray. 
  • Experiment with movement, cooking, art, sculpture, music, or rhythm in conjunction with your spiritual life this week

There’s no right or wrong way to be more creative and God will rejoice in any efforts you give to him, no matter how cringe-worthy you might deem them. This is for you to grow with the One you love. I think everyone that’s married will tell you that laughter is recommended throughout the loving and growing process.

To sum this all up I have a simple little lock screen for you that you can use throughout this month to remind you of the goal of your creative endeavors. It features one of my favorite quotes on the intermingling of spirituality and creativity from Johann Wolfgang von Goethe:

 “A man should hear a little music, read a little poetry, and see a fine picture every day of his life, in order that worldly cares may not obliterate the sense of the beautiful which God has implanted in the human soul.” 

You can download the lock screen right here.

That’s all for this week, but I will see you next week to chat about creativity and people that swear they aren’t creative. (Spoiler alert: I think they really are.)

With joy!


PS. If you have friends that you think would benefit from the Revive Creativity resource package and the other content we are putting out this month, I encourage you to point them to this link: https://pinksaltriot.com/creativity/. There they can sign up and receive the packet right away in their inbox and follow along with the emails for the rest of this month and beyond.

How to Be Brave With Your Identity

How to Be Brave With Your Identity

This post is part of our ongoing series about identity – what your identity is, where it comes from, and how to let God be the one that shapes it, really. We are creating lots of amazing content to share with you free, and we’d hate for you to miss any of it so drop your email below and we will send you new resources as they come out!

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It was those perfect curls that got me. The minute I saw them my gut told me – oh, we do not like this woman. 

She was in her mid-20s, with the kind of big blonde perfect hair you see a lot of the time on Pinterest. She had to of been about a size 4 and my ankles hurt just looking at her high heels. The inner monologue in my mind was deafening and predictable.She’s so perfect. I don’t even want to listen to her. What could she possibly know about being like me. What kind of problems has this lady ever had?

As it turned out, lots. The story of her life was riveting. The obstacles she overcame were amazing. And in the midst of it all she shared about her deep struggles with anxiety, insecurity, and depression. On the stage, looking like that, admitting to the same dark secrets I carried around in my much less Pinterest-y package. 

Has that ever happened to you? Has there ever been a person that you thought surely had no problems, or at least not the kind of problems that you had, only to find out that you were totally wrong? I know this isn’t an isolated incident. In the age of Instagram we are constantly building people up in our minds, assuming that a life that photographs so well surely can’t be stained with the same kinds of issues staining up our own.

But that’s just not reality. Everybody’s life is full of stains – struggles, heart aches, battles that will never end this side of eternity.

I know that may sound bleak, but here’s where the opportunity is: the struggles and hardships in our lives me manifest in different ways, but the struggle itself is universal. We all deal with it in whatever packaging happens to apply to our specific case, but we deal with it nonetheless.

How does it make you feel when you hear someone you look up to share vulnerably about their struggles? 

Do you think differently of them? In a good way? Or is it a bad way? 

I would venture to bet that hearing someone you admire speak with vulnerability would lead to greater admiration, right? Why is that? Shouldn’t be the other way around?

I don’t think so. I think things are just as they should be, but despite experiencing it over and over we remain skeptical that that is the way it really is. Vulnerability leads to deeper connection, which leads to inspiration. We are inspired by people who share with us. We admire them before we know their struggles, but upon seeing their struggles laid bare the ways they have already inspired us becomes even more incredible.

No matter who you are, there is someone that looks up to you. There is someone who desires to be inspired by you. There is someone watching you. It might be a family member, a colleague, a student, or a mentee. Whoever it is, they desire to be inspired.

And whoever you are, wherever you are at in life, you can inspire them. 

One more time for the people in the back:

*Whoever you are, wherever you are at in life, YOU can inspire them.*

You can do that by being brave with your identity.

So what does it mean to be brave with your identity? 

It means to be:

1.) Aware of where you are at in your own identity (positive and negative)


2.) Actively seeking to bring that vision in line with God‘s vision for your identity. 


3.) Sharing your struggles in a real and appropriate way with people that you influence.

What does this look like practically?

Well, I’ve thought about that a lot.

I want you to think about a world full of moms, just like ours is, but in this world, moms are open about their struggles with identity in a healthy way with their daughters.

They say things like:

“I’m really struggling to embrace my true self-worth, but I need to. I go to God every day and ask Him to help bring my vision of myself in line with His vision of me.” 


“It’s really hard to see yourself the way God sees you. I still really struggle with that. But God really desires for us to see ourselves the same way he sees us and so I pray about that a lot. I want to be confident in who I am, because I am who God made me to be.”

And not just moms. Aunts. Siblings. Godmothers. Friends.

Just imagine that.

A generation of daughters raised up by women that struggle but don’t give up – who fight the negativity in their head and the culture with the truth of the Gospel.

A generation of mothers (biological and spiritual) that never back down from what might be the hardest everyday fight of their lives AND don’t pretend it’s a cake walk.

A society of women that refuse to accept the status quo – to dislike themselves or be numb and grasping at the thin air of vanity and one-ups-manship – and build their fortress on the only truth that will never crumble: Christ.

Excuse the informality, but holy crap. That’s a world I want to live in.

That’s the world I believe God wants for us too.

He loves us. That should mean so much to us, but I know how hard it is to let it sink in.

Do you desire a toxic headspace for someone you love?

NO! Never!

So why do we live like we’re alone in this? Like Christ loves us but our garbage mental state is our own mess to deal with?

No more, ladies. No more.

What being brave with your identity is NOT:

It’s not being brave with your identity to simply complain. 

It’s not being brave to be self-deprecating. 

It’s not brave to belittle yourself with the hope of fishing for a compliment. 

Those are the easy, slightly sleazy things to do. 

Being brave is owning the ground you stand on, no matter how undesirable it is, and yet living in hope that God will bring you into a future where you no longer live there. 

It’s brave to hope that you will heal. 

It’s brave to share the fact that you are open to healing before the healing has happened.

I think a lot of women think that their own internal struggles with their identity or just that – their own internal struggles. But God desires to turn even these internal, sometimes even silly seeming struggles into massive opportunities for him to move and for us to connect as a community of believers. 

It is a tremendous opportunity to come to him day after day in hope and trust that he will heal us. It is a tremendous opportunity to paint a hopeful future in our communities – talking together about what it is that we are seeking from the Father in our prayer. It gives us the chance to love each other as God loves us by affirming each other in our God-given identities – conversations we might not even realize need to be had without vulnerability and bravery on the part of those in our lives.

No matter who you are, and where are you were out in life, you can be brave today. You can choose to share with someone this journey that you are on – the dark place you are in and the beautiful road that you desire to walk down.

 I’ve met many women who simply hope to reach a place where they don’t care anymore. I think this is the total wrong approach. We live in a numbing culture – that’s what our culture tells us to do. 

Just numb it down. 

Our culture uses drugs, entertainment, alcohol and sex to numb, but we can be just as guilty of numbing as Christians when we don’t take our struggle to prayer and simply wish it would go away, or that our hearts could just shrink a little bit so we don’t feel it as much. It doesn’t hurt as much that way.

It’s so much braver to feel the pain. Acknowledge it, sit with it, and pray through it. Allow it to make us patient so that we intern can sit with others in pain. That’s when we grow. That’s where we let Christ love us.

This post is part of our ongoing series about identity – what your identity is, where it comes from, and how to let God be the one that shapes it, really. We are creating lots of amazing content to share with you free, and we’d hate for you to miss any of it so drop your email below and we will send you new resources as they come out!

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Asking for the Healing We Need in Our Identity

Asking for the Healing We Need in Our Identity

This post is part of our ongoing series about identity – what your identity is, where it comes from, and how to let God be the one that shapes it, really. We are creating lots of amazing content to share with you free, and we’d hate for you to miss any of it so drop your email below and we will send you new resources as they come out!

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I’ll never forget this one sleepover in my childhood. It was a slumber party with a girl that I didn’t know well – a homeschool family that had been involved in a girls group with us a few times, but that was it. The girl was nice and her other friends were very kind and I felt welcome that is, until I really needed something. 

The details are fuzzy in my mind. I can’t remember exactly what we were doing on the treadmill, but whatever it was it probably was lacking in a fair amount of intelligence because I ended up flying off the back and getting a gash in my knee. No one saw my knee right after the accident and I rushed to the bathroom to tend to my wound myself. 

I pressed it as hard as I could with a wad of toilet paper to try and stop the bleeding and changed into longer clothes that covered it up. I was embarrassed that I was hurt. I was afraid of what my friend’s mother would say and that she would be disappointed in me, or even her own daughter, for my having gotten hurt in the first place.

I kept my banged up knee a secret all that night and into the next morning. My mom noticed it right away when she picked me up and my poor friend’s mother was absolutely horrified that she hadn’t done anything to bandage it up. As a mother myself now, I know how horrified I would be if the same situation unfolded in my house. But it wasn’t her fault – she didn’t even know about it. She couldn’t have helped me unless I asked her too.

I think we forget that it’s the same way with God. God really does hold our free will as sacred. He will not barrel into our lives and wrest control of them from us. But when I think back to that incident in my childhood, when I let the shame of even having been hurt keep me from seeking healing from the person that could’ve helped, I realize how often I still do that with God.

We sit on the street, cradling our broken hearts and bleeding wounds just inches away from the hospital. 

We are ashamed that we even need a hospital so we don’t go inside. 

Maybe we don’t even believe that they will let us in if we try. 

But regardless of the reason the result is the same: we tend our wounds as best we can on our own, which is not very well, and then we wonder why we never get better.

Chances are if you are struggling with a broken identity there is a wound somewhere that never got attention. Maybe you’ve been holding soggy toilet paper to it in an attempt to just make it stop bleeding for years. Maybe it’s even gotten infected and all the sudden your whole life is overrun with gangrenous ills. Maybe your left feeling like whole parts of yourself need to simply be amputated because the idea of actually healing seems too far-fetched to believe.

The reality is that Christ is our doctor and the church is his hospital. His heart is burning with the desire to make you well again, even to make you better than you’ve ever been before. He will offer all this to you and more, but He needs you to ask.

Hobble in to that hospital clutching your heart, clutching your wounds, doing whatever it takes to simply get inside the door. 

That’s all you have to do. Just bring yourself in. 

You don’t have to know how to heal yourself.

 You don’t have to be the one doing the healing. 

You just have to come in and let him.

Bring him the lies you’ve believed about yourself since childhood – that you were worthless, unlovable, a burden, a mistake, a scar on the face of humanity. 

Bring him the abuse, the doubts, the anxiety, the depression, bring it all to Him. 

Like any good doctor, he does not promise quick fixes or instant results. He does not peddle in snake oil. But he will serve you tirelessly on your path to healing. 

You will no longer be alone. 

You will be folded into his heart. There you can find hope and be strengthened, even if wounds remain. You will never, ever be worse off for seeking Christ and his healing.

Are you like me at that slumber party right now? Telling yourself it’s just a flesh wound and that if you focus on something else it’ll go away? 

I encourage you to seek the Healer. Bring him your wounds every day so that he can heal you, whether in mind, body, or spirit.

All you have to do is bring them to him.

This post is part of our ongoing series about identity – what your identity is, where it comes from, and how to let God be the one that shapes it, really. We are creating lots of amazing content to share with you free, and we’d hate for you to miss any of it so drop your email below and we will send you new resources as they come out!

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The Gift of a Broken Identity

The Gift of a Broken Identity

This post is part of our ongoing series about identity – what your identity is, where it comes from, and how to let God be the one that shapes it, really. We are creating lots of amazing content to share with you free, and we’d hate for you to miss any of it so drop your email below and we will send you new resources as they come out!

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A broken identity can actually be a gift. Sounds crazy right? Yet it’s true. Because, as the Bible tells us, in our weakness, God is strong.

I want you to take stock of all the things you believe about yourself right now. Not what you should believe, what you intellectually know from sermons and Bible reading and Sunday school songs, but what feels true right at this moment. If it makes you feel embarrassed – don’t be.

This is where you are starting from. This is what you have to work with right now.

And if what you have to work with is thoughts like “I’m worthless.“ or “I’m not beautiful.” or “No one loves me.” then that’s what it is.

Wishing, or just trying to gut it out and believe harder won’t help.

Do you know why? Because you are weak.

But you know what is crazy? That is a good thing.

If we were strong enough to fix ourselves by ourselves then we would be very tempted to do so, right? Everyone is all about self-help and self-improvement in our culture these days. And in theory – I’m on board with that. But, the danger is in feeling and thinking that we, on our own, in a vacuum, can bring about all these beautiful changes.

We can bring about beautiful change, but only in communion with God. And that’s why your weakness is a good thing.

Your broken identity is an incredible opportunity to go to God in vulnerability and allow him to be your strength.

Imagine yourself as a little girl. You don’t know how to make your own lunch, but you are desperately hungry. Your dad is in the next room.

What is more logical – two make a huge mess of the kitchen and burn yourself on the stove trying to make your own lunch or simply going to the next room and asking your Dad for help? This is a loving Dad. He will make lunch for you. He knows that you can’t make it for yourself.

It would be crazy to think that He would expect you to do so.

And yet this situation is the same: we are desperate and unable to provide for our own needs. So why do we act like we have to check off the boxes alone and bring our completed checklist to God when it comes to healing our identity?

You don’t have to get to a place where you have things figured out before you come to God. Admitting that you feel worthless right now doesn’t degrade God’s love for you. I think that might be what we fear – admitting our feelings of lack to God would be like saying that He isn’t enough for us. That’s not what we’re saying at all.

Being honest with God we are saying that our minds and hearts are out of sync. We know in our mind that God is love – that He loves us. But we don’t feel it in our hearts yet. And when the chasm between our head and our heart can feel uncrossable, God can build a bridge.

We are just asking for his help to build that bridge. He knows we don’t know how to do it. So just like the little girl hungry for lunch, when we ask God to build that bridge for us he is delighted to oblige.

So here’s how we heal:

We bare our souls before God.

We pray, pray, pray.

We use science.

Writing is a proven way to create stronger connections between the head and the heart. In writing both how we feel now and how we desire God to form us we can use the very skills God created in us as humans to cooperate with God in strengthening the connection between our head and our heart.

We begin again every day.

I strongly recommend making the truth and scripture verses a regular part of your every day life. You can use one of our lock screens on your phone (head to Instagram to grab them from our story highlight), you can set up a desktop background on your computer, and very soon we will have a whole collection coming out created specifically to fill your day with these truthful verses.

The more we see the truth the more it gets written in our heart. Think about how much we get inundated with lies – from TV, movies, magazines, tears, and the culture at large. We are getting slammed with those lies day in and day out. It’s no wonder that we’re struggling to cling to truth. We have to give it a fighting chance. We have to fill our lives with it.

We ask for help.

Go on this journey with sisters. Gather a small group of women from your church, school, or community to talk about identity. Talk about the lies that you believe about yourself and what you are trying to cooperate with God to believe. Affirm each other in who you are. Let friends and mentors have the opportunity to respond to the negative voices in your mind by vulnerably sharing your struggles with them. God desires to use us as his body presence in each others lives. Receiving affirmation from devout friends can remind us of how God sees us.

Broken identities can feel like wounds that won’t heal, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Not only can we heal, our journey of healing can lead us deeper with Christ, the true purpose of life on this Earth.

That sounds like a gift to me.

This post is part of our ongoing series about identity – what your identity is, where it comes from, and how to let God be the one that shapes it, really. We are creating lots of amazing content to share with you free, and we’d hate for you to miss any of it so drop your email below and we will send you new resources as they come out!

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